It's been a while ....

I thought I better blog incase people started to think I had been abducted by aliens.
So here I am with not much to say though ...

To be honest I haven't been near the PC much at all, I have read three books and watched TV that's about it basically.


I have not been completely inactive I have been doing some templates, the latest of which was for Brooke, who is new to blogging.








When I opened Firefox this morning I was browsing the "how to of the day" section when I came upon a couple of articles "how to be a great husband" and "how to be a great wife".
Some of the advice leaves a lot to be desired (or maybe that's just me ?)
*from how to be a great wife..

• Live to please him. Men like to be appreciated even after you've married them. To do so well, be a well-rounded, pleasing person yourself.
  

Live to please him ? What are we not equal ? Should we not both be aiming to live our lives together in a mutually pleasing way ?

• Don't have sex unless both of you are "in the mood," but try to be in the mood frequently enough to match his libido.

And what if the wives libido is higher then the guys ? What then ? This plays on the old misconception that once you get married sex stops, and its always the woman's fault.

• Don't over spend. Even on groceries. Be responsible together with your money.
  

Again playing on the mis-conception that all women are spend thrifts.WTF!


Now onto the gems of advice for the men..

• Talk to her about things that interest you, too - don't worry too much that she'll be bored - she'll be thrilled that you want to share your hobbies with her. If possible, try to find an aspect of your interest that she can join in with (if she doesn't already). The efforts you make to help her enjoy what you enjoy will pay off enormously!
  

Oh yes we women have such small minds that we would be truly thrilled! Don't get me wrong, I try to take an interest in my husbands interests but this is written as though we women will not have the brain capacity to grasp the concept of our husbands interests.

• Give her unconditional love. Truly unconditional love is a very very radical concept, and it takes a lot of self-discipline. This means love her no matter what. Are you prepared to love her when she's yelling at you and calling you names? When she forgets your birthday? When she's being unfair to you? You don't have to condone these behaviors, but can you still say "I love you" in these cases, and mean it? If you can, that will give her such a feeling of safety and trust that she will love you unconditionally too. If you can't, then you will probably feel unloved when you get angry/distracted/selfish, and display the same behaviors. Remember your vows? Live by those.
  

Again, who wrote this, what about the men who forget birthdays, who call wives nasty names, being unfair its not only women who do this, so stop implying it is!

• Cleanliness is a woman's best friend! Try to pick up after yourself.
  

[quote]Cleanliness is a woman's best friend![/quote] yes we women have so little going on in our lives that we are all obsessed with cleanliness... ;)

• You're welcome to praise your wife in public, but if you notice something you'd like to criticize, please find a private moment.
  

Works both ways, I know lots of women who criticise their husbands in public too. Both partners should have respect for each other and keep it private.

Yes these "how To's" are certainly full of *cough* shit*cough* advice....